MANDY BONDS

certified IAT coach

FROM INNER STRENGTH TO LASTING BONDS

My vision

A world where every woman feels deeply connected to herself, knows her worth and builds relationships that strengthen, not diminish, her.

my mission

To guide women to discover their authentic self, own their worth, and create the secure, empowering relationships they deserve.

who i help

I guide young and middle-aged women with fearful-avoidant attachment style who feel disconnected from their emotions after emotionally unhealthy or narcissistic relationships to rebuild clarity, confidence, and the ability to create healthy, secure connections.

window.dataLayer = window.dataLayer || []; function gtag(){dataLayer.push(arguments);} gtag('js', new Date()); gtag('config', 'G-C3XJK828Q0');

your transformation

Do you find yourself attracting the same kind of emotionally unavailable partners, feeling stuck in toxic relationship patterns, or struggling with self-worth? You’re not broken - you’re human.I’m Mandy, a certified personal growth coach. I help women with fearful-avoidant attachment patterns, who give so much to others that they put themselves last, reclaim their inner strength and build confidence, clarity, and healthy, secure connections. I know exactly how it feels - I’ve been there myself, and I understand the struggles of navigating relationships while trying to honor your own worth.Our work together is rooted in integrated attachment theory and subconscious rewiring, helping you understand the patterns that shape your relationships and your life. Together, we’ll uncover the why behind your decisions, develop practical tools, and create lasting change—so you can finally feel empowered, confident, and free from repeating old cycles.My goal? To give you the tools and confidence to navigate relationships and life with ease so you thrive independently, honor your boundaries, and create connections that empower you - long after our sessions.Ready to transform your patterns into lasting confidence and fulfillment? Scroll down to find my email list or directly book a 1:1 session with me and let’s make it happen.

window.dataLayer = window.dataLayer || []; function gtag(){dataLayer.push(arguments);} gtag('js', new Date()); gtag('config', 'G-C3XJK828Q0');

what is iat?

Attachment style is a subconscious set of rules that was shaped by our early experiences - how we were comforted, seen, and loved as children - and sometimes by later life events that shook our sense of safety. These patterns influence how we connect, love, trust, and show up in relationships today.Based on John Bowlby’s foundational attachment theory, there are four main attachment styles: secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant. Studies show that more than half of us are insecurely attached (and honestly, I believe that number is even higher). That means most people quietly struggle to feel safe, confident, or truly fulfilled in their relationships, with others and with themselves.But here’s the good news: it doesn’t have to stay that way.
Through Integrated Attachment Theory (IAT), developed by Thais Gibson, I can help you not only understand why you feel the way you do, but actually reprogram the subconscious patterns that keep you stuck. Awareness alone isn’t enough. Real transformation happens when we work with both the mind and the nervous system to rewire the old conditioning that shaped you.I’m here to guide you through that process step by step so you can finally feel secure, confident, and deeply connected.
You deserve relationships that feel safe and nourishing. And it all starts with learning how to securely bond with yourself.Ready to start your transformation?
Start your journey safely and at your pace by signing up for my email list or book a session with me. Let’s begin your journey toward secure love and self-trust.

window.dataLayer = window.dataLayer || []; function gtag(){dataLayer.push(arguments);} gtag('js', new Date()); gtag('config', 'G-C3XJK828Q0');

my story

Hi, I’m Mandy Bullmann (and yes, I wish my last name really were Bonds - how fitting would that be?).I’m originally from Germany and moved to the U.S. in 2019. Over the years I’ve worn many hats: working in food science, sales, and project management. But nothing ever felt quite like home until I found my passion for emotional and relational health.

For most of my life, I thought taking care of myself meant eating well and exercising. But even though I prioritized my physical health, I kept finding myself stuck in the same painful emotional cycles. I felt drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, and at one point, I spent years in a relationship that was deeply unhealthy marked by manipulation, emotional volatility, and the kind of subtle narcissistic patterns that slowly chip away at your self-worth.I left that relationship feeling confused, ashamed, disconnected from myself, and unsure who to trust - including me.At one point, I reached a breaking point. I knew something had to change. That’s when I discovered Integrated Attachment Theory, and it changed everything.The tools I now teach are the same ones I used to completely transform my own life. I was my very first client. Through this work, I learned how to feel safe in vulnerability, set boundaries with confidence, and invite only the kinds of relationships that align with the love and respect I deserve.That’s why I’m so passionate about helping you do the same. I know how it feels to be stuck, to crave connection but fear it at the same time. And I also know what it feels like to finally break free from those old patterns, to feel calm, grounded, and confident in your relationships and within yourself.If you’re ready to make that shift, I’d be honored to guide you. Together, we’ll rewire the old conditioning that keeps you small and create lasting change from the inside out.Your healing journey doesn’t have to take a lifetime. It starts with one session.
Let’s begin.

window.dataLayer = window.dataLayer || []; function gtag(){dataLayer.push(arguments);} gtag('js', new Date()); gtag('config', 'G-C3XJK828Q0');

Sign up for my email list

If you’ve spent years navigating relationships from a place of fear - fear of losing yourself, fear of being too much, fear of not being enough - you’re not alone.
My emails are gentle, grounding support for women with fearful-avoidant patterns who want to feel secure, confident, and deeply connected again.
Each message offers practical tools, emotional insights, and subconscious rewiring strategies to help you break old patterns and build healthy relationships with others and with yourself.
Sign up to receive guidance that meets you exactly where you are, every single week on Fridays at 5 pm.Sign up and receive a FREE awareness tool immediately in the first email.

window.dataLayer = window.dataLayer || []; function gtag(){dataLayer.push(arguments);} gtag('js', new Date()); gtag('config', 'G-C3XJK828Q0');

Start your healing journey

1:1 Session
60 minutes 90 minutes · $150

You don’t have to figure this all out alone.
If you keep finding yourself caught in anxious thoughts, emotional shutdowns, people-pleasing, or choosing emotionally unavailable partners, a 1:1 session gives you the support, clarity, and tools you’ve been missing.What we will work on together:
- Understanding your fearful-avoidant patterns and where they come from
- Reducing emotional overwhelm, shutdowns, and anxiety spikes
- Setting boundaries without guilt or fear of disappointing others
- Healing the core wounds behind overgiving and self-abandonment
- Rewiring subconscious patterns that keep you stuck
- Building confidence, self-trust, and secure connectionsWhat a session feels like:
- This is a safe, non-judgmental space where you can slow down, reflect, and feel truly seen.
- We’ll explore what’s coming up for you, identify the subconscious patterns underneath, and use Integrated Attachment Theory tools to create real, lasting shifts.You’ll leave each session with:
- Clear steps you can take immediately
- Tools personalized to your unique patterns and needs
- Emotional relief, groundedness, and direction
- A better understanding of why you feel the way you do
- Support you can apply long after the session is overReady to begin?Click below to book your session. I am excited to support your healing and help you step into the love, confidence, and connection you deserve.

window.dataLayer = window.dataLayer || []; function gtag(){dataLayer.push(arguments);} gtag('js', new Date()); gtag('config', 'G-C3XJK828Q0');